One of the reasons I started this blog was to give myself a platform to speak about our adoption journey the raw, the real and everything in between. I have been asked by multiple people why adoption? What made you consider adoption in the first place? The short answer is infertility. The long answer is God. We never set out when we got married to become adoptive parent. This journey just kind of happened.
The Raw…
When you first get married most people dream about having a family. From a young age all I ever wanted to be was to be a mom. Some people want to grow up to be doctors or lawyers, but I wanted to be a mom. When we started trying for a family we found out that having a family might not be in the cards. We got testing done and found out that I had PCOS or Polycystic ovary syndrome. Once we were told this we were also told the likelihood of becoming pregnant and staying pregnant would be a difficult road. Our doctors at the time told us that they would only give us 6 months with medicine prescribed by them. After 6 months we would be would have to consider if we wanted to go to a Fertility doctor and seek their help.
We decided early on that IVF wasn’t a route we would want to consider. IVF and infant adoption are around the same price but IVF isn’t a guarantee you will have a child. Fortunately for us we did end up conceiving our son Marcel right before our doctor’s deadline. We were so blessed with a healthy pregnancy that ended with a healthy baby boy.
The Real…
Around Marcel’s 1st birthday we started trying to have another child. I was put on the same medicine and even took higher doses but nothing worked. We tried on and off for close to 2 years to conceive again. Around this time Jake called a timeout. He said that how we were going wasn’t healthy. To everyone else we were happy, however the medicine I was put on made my emotions off the chart. I had become someone that I didn’t want to be and that I didn’t like. At that point we decided to be done and be thankful for the blessing we were given. God had given us an amazing gift and we were thankful for that. We know some families with PCOS NEVER get that opportunity and we were so blessed. We had a happy, healthy, smart little boy. He was the light of our lives.
God is Good Even When We Don’t Deserve It.
Marcel was like our rainbow after our storm of so many failed attempts. God knew what we needed and He provided. We honestly thought our family was complete. Jake and I had decided early on in our marriage that we would be done having children by 30. God had other plans. Some people say when you make plans God laughs. While the bible doesn’t use these exact words I do think God has a sense of humor.
This is the first installment for our adoption journey the raw, the real and everything in between! I hope you come back and stay awhile!
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